November 12, 2013

The Best Advice I Ever Got Came From A Complete Stranger

This past weekend, at my friend Ashley's wedding, a woman came through the locker room where we were all getting ready and started chatting it up about the wedding. What time did the wedding start? Who was the bride? What did the dress look like? etc...

As she was walking out, my friend Ashley piped up and asked her "By the way, what's your best marriage advice?!" and this lady, this complete stranger whom which I didn't even get her first name, gave us all what I found to be the best marriage advice I had ever heard.

I've always heard the normal "Don't go to bed angry" or "Always kiss me goodnight" or even the old fashioned "Fight fair" but you know when you hear something for the first time and it just automatically sticks with you? That's how this was.

And this is what she said...


You all may have heard this before but I never had and I don't know why but it just really hit home for me.

While I'm sure you would all assume I'm a perfect angel when it comes to being a wife, I'm here to break the news to you all that I, indeed, am not the easiest person to be married to.

It was the moment I heard those words roll off her lips I knew I was meant to hear them.

Sometimes...okay a lot of times...I'm impatient, or busy, or frustrated, or all of the above and I find myself snapping at Beau. It's not fun and I don't enjoy it and that woman was right. Your spouse is your best friend so it only makes all the sense in the world to treat them that way.

I would never (intentionally) snap at my best friend or talk down to one of them on purpose but here lately, I haven't even thought twice about it when I've snapped at Beau or talked to him like he was a child even though he sometimes acts that way. He is my best friend and he doesn't treat me that way. We're in this thing together and for the long haul and gosh darn it, I want to treat him like he should be treated all of the time, not just sometimes.

So thank you, random locker room lady, for the best marriage advice anyone has ever told me. I wish you knew how appreciative I am of that.

And thank you, Beau, for being the kindest, most patient husband I could ever ask for. I'm still working on this whole "wife thing" and am so grateful to call you mine.


23 comments:

  1. Love this - and it's so true! I always think twice about what I would say to my best friends - not so much my spouse!

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  2. Such great advise!! I say my hubby is my best friend yet I am guilty of not treating him that way!! Thank you Locker Room lady & you Stephanie for posting to remind me!

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  3. I love this. I needed this today because I do this to my husband. More than I would like to admit. Thanks locker room lady.

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  4. Awesome advice! I have never heard that before either, but it couldn't be more true! We sometimes take advantage of our relationship with our spouse, but we really shouldn't. Being a female, we can be mean and moody and not nice...oh the list goes on. But like she said we don't treat our bff this why, why should we treat our life partners this way. thanks locker room lady!! & Steph for posting about it :)

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  5. I more than love this <3 it's perfect advice. I've only been married for a little over a year so I'll take any and all advice. I, too, tend to snap at the hubs and need to remember this. Thank you for posting this!

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  6. Aww very good advice!! So true & we take marriage for granted!

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  7. So so true!! I treat my hubby like he is my best friend but I also know the value of my girlfriends. It's important to nurture those relationships just as much!

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  8. I cannot imagine you have a mean bone in your body - but this is good to remember: )

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  9. Agreed! A long time ago, I was going to a shower for my bestie, and we were asked to bring a piece of marriage advise. Being as I'd never been married at the time, I was clueless! So I asked a lady who had a marriage and relationship that I admired, and that's exactly what she said. But took it a bit further. She said marry a man that is your best friend and always treat him as such. She said, there will be a day when your older, and things sag, and nothing is as it was, but as long as you married your best friend and you treated that person as such, neither will care that the other doesn't look quite like they used to, etc. You'll love each other forever. I honestly believe that to be 110% true.

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  10. :) very sweet & so true. Never thought of it like that.

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  11. That is a great piece of advice!!! Thanks locker room lady!

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  12. Great advice, thank you for sharing it! Thank Jesus for Locker Room Lady, too! I'm not married (or even engaged!) but it's something I do need to keep in mind for when that day comes.

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  13. That's absolutely the best advice! I love my husband so much, but he's my best friend first. I need to remember that!

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  14. Love this and I am thankful you posted this because I need to hear it too. Another thing I've heard is to greet your spouse like your dog does...I feel like this may be a bit overboard, but I guess I can see it sorta :) Gotta love when advice you didn't ask for, turns out to be what you didn't know you needed!

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  15. such good advice! i am so guilty of taking things out on kev. why do we wifeys tend to do that?!? kudos on this post sissy. i think it's good to always be a work in progress in the wife department. sometimes for me ...that is easier said than done. thank god for my hubby and all he puts up with haha!

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  16. That was sweet! I love you more than the world and yes we are in this together.

    Love you
    Beau

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  17. This is such great advice! I am also very guilty of this. I always watch my mouth when it comes to friends but will let my emotions get the best of me when talking to my husband. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  18. Great advice, Locker Room Lady!! You sound a lot like me! I have to remind myself that Matt isn't a child & I certainly wouldn't like it if He talked to or treated me the way I do him sometimes. I think this whole "wife thing" is a constant work in progress, much like the "husband thing" and "marriage thing" as a whole. It's all work but, it's so worth it!!

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  19. I love love love her advice. What a sweet thing to say and it's so true. I'm terrible at ignoring Michael or as you said, being busy. If my best friend from say Charlotte was here visiting, would I hudle myself in a room and not talk to them...nope. This is definitely something I need to work on. Thank you for sharing friend.

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  20. Wow that is so true!! Thank you so much for sharing. I too have found myself snapping at my husband about just little things around the house which I am sure we are trying to figure out as newlyweds but this is so helpful and words to live by

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  21. Wow! I absolutely love this! I actually did a post today on my relationship and my relationship advice so I had to share this on my blog because it seemed fitting ! Thanks for posting this and locker room lady!

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  22. Oh how I LOVE this!!! I am still very much working on being a better wife, partner, friend to my Husband. What a blessing to have a great partner to spend the rest of our lives with! Thanks for sharing this! I really took it to heart <3

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  23. I love this advice and your blog in general, which I just stumbled across today. Such great advice that resonates with many people. thank you for sharing it.

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